Like my core memory of someone is not who they are as a whole; it’s a single moment of their life that made an impact or impression on me.
I don’t consciously mean to, but in that instant, my mind wraps that moment around their neck like an invisible scarf. They don’t even know it’s there. But from now on, every time I see them, the first thing I notice is that scarf.
That makes it easier to reduce someone to a single moment. I see their scarf, sometimes it’s basically a red letter A, and reactively define them by that one way or another.
I don’t think it’s fair; and I’m trying to be more aware of it. My single positive or negative experience with someone fifteen years ago does not determine the person they are today.
I had a great day today; I spent it with my little brother.
We went to a nice little brunch at the Escape restaurant & bar in Riverside with a varied crowd of adults to celebrate Fahmida’s birthday. He was a dapper, well behaved, little gentleman. He had the kid’s cheese pizza and I the grilled shrimp wrap. Both were fantastic. Service was a little slow, but the company kept it lively with rich conversation. And the food was worth the wait.
Afterwards, he mentioned that he had never tried boba 🧋 so for dessert, we went to OMG Cafe off Beach. It was positively a delight. We split a chocolate puppy 🐶 & each had a milk tea.
We decided that we were full and needed to stretch our legs. So we went and changed into warm clothes, scooped up the dog, and met up with my bestie Laura, her son, Landen and her niece, Jayla in Atlantic Beach. We took an evening beach stroll in the salty, brisk air. It was perfect.
Then we decided on a game night ♦️ together featuring Uno & Trouble before finishing the night with Disney’s Hercules.🏺